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Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Author: STAN TATKIN
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"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.


Wired for Love is a complete insider's guide to understanding a partner's brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners' emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain's threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure.


The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a "warring brain" mentality and toward a more cooperative "loving brain" understanding of the relationship. Based in the sound science of neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, this book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.


Wired for Love offers couples principles from attachment theory and cognitive neuroscience to help them to please and soothe their partners, how to quickly resolve common pitfalls and conflicts, and easy ways to increase feelings of comfort and security.

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Wired for Love offers couples principles from attachment theory and cognitive neuroscience to help them to please and soothe their partners, how to quickly resolve common pitfalls and conflicts, and easy ways to increase feelings of comfort and security.

Reviews

“This book is grounded in the latest brain science, as well as being wonderfully friendly, encouraging, and practical. It shows readers how to stay out of dead-end conflicts and instead light up the neural circuits of empathy, skillful communication, and love. A marvelous resource.” —Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain

“Stan Tatkin shows how our couple relationships would look if we took seriously what attachment theory and neuroscience research has taught us.” —Dan Wile, author of After the Honeymoon

“I really enjoyed this book and learned a lot from it that I can use as a therapist. Stan Tatkin is a great innovator. This book is a must for every couple’s therapist’s library.” —John Gottman, author of The Science of Trust

“If you feel lost, confused or alone in your relationship, get this book right now. You will finally make sense out of chaos and pain. This is your map to go from frustration and insecurity to realize the potential of why you initially got together. Stan Tatkin’s insightful book will teach you to work as a team to make your relationship journey safe, engaging, and deeply satisfying.” —Peter Pearson, PhD, couples therapy specialist and cofounder of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA

Author description

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. He is assistant clinical professor in the family medicine department at the University of California, Los Angeles and is on the adjunct faculty of the masters psychology program at Antioch University in Santa Barbara, the masters psychology program at the California Lutheran University of Thousand Oaks, and the doctoral pre- and perinatal psychology program at Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. He teaches and supervises psychology students at Kaiser Permanente in Woodland Hills and is the creator of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, or PACT. He is co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

Stock Information

General Fields

  • : 9781608820580
  • : New Harbinger Publications
  • : New Harbinger
  • : January 2012
  • : 150mm x 226mm
  • : books

Special Fields

  • : STAN TATKIN
  • : Paperback
  • : en
  • : 158.24
  • : 224
  • : VF
  • : black & white tables