"I can's do it," "I'm too damaged," "It won't work," "I'm a loser." Do you believe self-defeating thoughts like these that tell you something is wrong with you? Do you feel inadequate, broken, or unlovable? The more you fixate on these painful thoughts and feelings, the more they become your reality, leading to hidden shame, struggles in relationships, and a life not fully lived. But what if these thoughts don't accurately describe you? Suffering Is Optional offers four guiding principles and five core practices based in deep spiritual wisdom to help you discover that these self-sabotaging beliefs just aren't true. With powerful exercises, heartfelt reflection, and inspiring stories, you'll shed your false and limited sense of self and come home to your natural aliveness that is already whole, peaceful, and primed for joy. Book jacket.